How many of my readers of are or know strong independent women? I believe in today’s society there are many of us (independent women). In biblical times, I don’t believe this was the case. Women were not brought up to think or act outside of the confines of their husband/father. This was not the case with Abigail.
Characteristics of Abigail:
- Her Joy: She saves many lives and she later marries David
- Her Sorrow: She was married to a fool, that is what Nabal means (it also means rude and ill-bred), he was also mean and selfish
- Her Character: She was wise, a persuasive speaker, one of the Bible’s great peacemakers
- Her name means: My Father is Joy or My Father Rejoiced
Abigail’s story takes place in 1 Samuel 25:2-42. In this portion of scripture she has one of the longest speeches of any woman in the Bible. That must be significant, right? Her speech starts in verse 24 and goes to verse 31. David was ready to go kill everyone at Nabal’s camp because he had refused to feed David’s men and give them water. They were marching toward the camp when a servant told Abigail what had happened. So what did she do? She gathers 200 loaves of bread, 2 jugs of wine, 5 sheep that were already dressed, 5 measures of grain that had been roasted, 100 clusters of raisins, and 200 fig cakes and put them on donkeys. I want to go to her parties, right?! Sounds like she know what she is doing and how to take care of a household or to appease a raging army. David was bringing 400 men with him to get the job done and I am sure was in no mood to talk.
When she arrives she falls down on her face before him and begins her speech. She sided with David and told him that he should have never been treated in such a way. When she brought food it helped to diminish David’s anger with a sincere confession and lavish gesture. She asked for forgiveness and praised him for being the better person. This reminded David that is was the Lord who seeks revenge not people.
An Example for Today
- How to do confrontation successfully
- How couples can imitate the interaction between Abigail and David. Abigail offered advice and David listened. Both did it in a gracious manner and neither let their ego get in the way or let it turn into a yelling match. This can be said even in the workforce and for friendships.
- Abigail is also a reminder that women shouldn’t hide their strengths in order to be accepted by men. As you all can see it would never have worked out had Abigail done so with David and it worked to her advantage but she used it wisely.
- Timing is everything when talking about difficult issues, especially family matters. Asking God for wisdom and and to know the best time for a meeting (this was seen when Abigail waited till Nabal was sober the next say)