This week we are going to take a look at some of the wives in the Bible. Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” (NLT) For those of you that are unmarried out there take notes so that someday if God has written if into your love story you are prepared to be the spouse God has called you to be. Our first wife this week is Sarah.
Her story takes place in Genesis 11:29-12:20, 16, 23:1-2.
She is another of the well known women of the Bible. Married to Abraham, they lived in Ur and then God told him to move to Canaan (which was the land God promised to Abraham and where He made His covenant) and later on to Egypt. In Egypt Sarah pretended to Abraham’s sister to save her life and because Abraham asked her to. After the Lord struck the Pharaoh with plagues and he asked Abraham what have you done to me? Abraham told the Pharaoh that Sarah was his wife not his sister. The Pharaoh gave him his wife and told them to go. They went back to Canaan to live
- How submissive to your husband are you? Would you have went along with a plan like this? I can tell you it would have been hard for me to act like a sister to my husband and be that submissive. If it was to save my life then yes I would do anything.
- The submission of a wife to a husband can be found in Ephesians 5:22-23. This verse is often misunderstood and people think it’s about ruling over another when in fact Paul was talking about spiritual leadership in the home. He was referring to a husband that would lead the home in a Christ honoring way that would not take advantage of the leadership role and a wife that would not try to take over the husband’s leadership role.
After some time Sarah took handmaiden Hagar to Abraham so he would have an heir. She didn’t wait on the Lord to fulfill His promise in His time, so she did it in her time. Ishmael was born. Soon Sarah began to hate both Hagar and Ishmael and sent them away. Ishmael though would later become the father of many nations just like Isaac would. Her actions still bear the consequences today.
Have you ever been impatient for a prayer to be answered? You are not alone. Sarah had heard that Abraham was going to have an heir and kept thinking it was going to be from her but at her age scholars believe that when she finally gave over her handmaiden she was beyond childbearing years.
- Has there been a time in your life when you prayed for a situation or an object for a long time and it didn’t seem like God heard your prayer?
- Did you take the situation into your own hands and do it yourself? If so what happened? Did it end well or turn out the way you expected?
I can tell you from experience those times when I didn’t wait on God the situation or object of my infatuation did not turn out the way I planned. God loves you very much and wants the best for you even when you mess up. Sometimes we have to live with the consequences of our actions but other times he does rescue us from them and allows us a second chance.
What can we learn from Sarah
- Abraham and Sarah were married for over 100 years. They both made some bad choices but both still are a great example of a submissive Christ-like marriage.
- As we can see from Sarah’s example God doesn’t work on our time table but His own. Sometimes we have to wait a lifetime to see prayers come to pass just life Sarah other times it only takes days.
- God always keeps His promises
- God loves us and He hasn’t forgotten us. We can trust his decisions in our lives.
- Place value and commitment in your spouse. Building a strong relationship with your spouse will last longer than the kids being at home, than your job, than some friendships… you get the picture. They are your partner for life and should be treated as such.
Wait for the Lord; be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the Lord.- Psalm 27:14
I wait for the LORD, my soul waits, and in his word I put my hope.- Psalm 130:5
BuT as for me, I watch in hope for the LORD, I wait for God my Savior; my God will hear me.- Micah 7:7